10 June 2009
Talk about a day of extremes. The weather is warm and sticky, and right now it is raining (about 7 p.m.). Yesterday one of my professors rescheduled a class, and so I ended up having to get up a little earlier than usual. This morning I woke up feeling tired, as I often do when the barometer is falling. So I didn’t have breakfast (never advisable) and I had a coffee on the way to school. Then I went to lunch, and I had another coffee, and then went to Japanese class.
Today we got the feedback on our oral interview part of the midterm exam. They had recorded the interview, and my comprehension is way low. It took me forever to answer each time the professor asked a question. She repeatedly had to explain what she was asking, and then in my answers I was using the wrong particles and conjugations, and couldn’t remember vocabulary. So I didn’t feel like I had done very well on that.
When I got out of class I was feeling kind of depressed, and felt like I had a lot of homework to do, so I went to my room and had some iced coffee. I had bought this new kind of “bottle coffee”, the Valor brand, and some milk so I could mix up my own iced coffee at home. The two were about the same price as three small cans of premade iced coffee would be, and I was getting maybe six times as much for the price.
I have not been drinking too much coffee or tea during my stay, so that’s one thing. But I don’t know--I think this “bottle coffee” is super caffeinated or something, because I seriously freaked out. About half an hour after drinking my drink, I started feeling queasy and kind of panicked.
It’s hard to explain, but whenever I start having anxiety like that I feel like I’m going to have a seizure or a stroke or something and die. This fear is not completely irrational; I have had seizures before, but under really specific circumstances. I think it’s just something my little panic monster likes to grab onto and wave around. The monster then passes off the resulting fear as intuition that something bad really is happening, and this in turn deepens the panic. A vicious vicious cycle.
By the way, caffeine is totally a drug.
Since I've dealt with this before I knew that I should go to where people were and just chill out. So I went downstairs and flipped through the Japan Times and sort of waited for the feeling of panic to go away. I have a couple tools my therapist taught me, such as saying a cue word and a technique where you tap pressure points to reduce the anxiety. I did these, and then decided I should go for a walk.
I figured I would go buy some slippers, something I have been meaning to do for a while now. So I headed down the street to Jasco, the big department store. But as I walked, I felt worse and worse, more and more anxious. My left arm started feeling numb [I had been carrying a heavy bag all day on that shoulder], and my left ear started to feel like it needed to pop [I have TMJ and it sometimes makes my ears feel weird]. I just kept getting more and more concerned that something was physically wrong with me. Then I got this weird disconnected feeling, and decided I really needed to turn around and maybe, if I didn’t feel OK when I got back to the dorm, seek some help.
On the way home (I had walked about half a mile)I spotted a little hair salon. No one was inside except the two people who worked there. I have been needing a haircut, and suddenly I realized that probably all I needed in the way of help was some TLC. So I went in.
At first the two people inside, a younger man and a woman in maybe her mid-40’s (they could have been mother and son) were worried because between the three of us there was very little in the way of common language. The hairdresser had no English; the younger man had a bit, and I have a bit of Japanese. I assured them it was OK, and proceeded to kind of mime what I wanted done: cut the back short, leave the top longer, take up the sides and make the bangs spiky. Then I had to go to the ATM and get some more cash, so I left for about 10 min. when I got back, the hairdresser had found a picture that looked very similar to what I wanted. I was satisfied she knew what I wanted and we got started.
I had never had a haircut here in Japan before, but I had heard from Steve (Fesmire, the GMC professor doing a Fulbright in Kyoto this semester) that at his barber they always give him a neck pounding before they cut his hair. I didn’t know what to expect at a women’s salon, but I figured they would do something along the same lines. I think women get the better deal.
When you sit down on the chair, the shampoo person (in my case the young man) first puts a blanket on your lap and wraps a towel and one of those plastic bib things over your neck and shoulders. Second, the chair automatically reclines into a perfect position, lifting up your feet as well. So much nicer than American salon chairs. Then, he puts this very light, sweet smelling towel over your face--I think to block out light and allow you to feel comfortable with whatever your face needs to do while you are getting shampooed. Finally the young man washes your hair. FOR HALF AN HOUR. He did a whole scalp and jaw rub thing that was really awesome. It was really just what I needed.
After doing two rounds of shampoo and a conditioner, the young man led me over to the haircutting station. Then THE HAIRDRESSER gave me a massage! She did my neck and shoulders, and did the pounding thing on the neck/shoulder area that Steve described (it felt good). Then she gave me a cool magazine to look at and got going on the haircut.
We had decided on a cute pixie razor cut. I have had razor cuts before, and I always find them slightly uncomfortable; you feel this tugging on your hair from the razor that doesn’t feel exactly nice. I don’t know what kind of razor this lady used, but it must have been extra high quality or something. I didn’t feel a thing. She took a lot of time with the hair, shaking it around and seeing how it falls, which way it wants to go. It was really fascinating. She worked quietly, letting me read my magazine. Most hairdressers want to chat you up--although in this case, with the language barrier that would have been hard. I’ll be interested to know if it’s usual to just sit and read while the hairdresser does her thing. I think I prefer it to the conversation at American salons.
She cut the hair for a little while, and then asked me if I wanted the bangs shorter. Between the two of us the young man and I communicated that it was up to her. She seemed pleased by this, and proceeded to cut with more surety. She took off maybe another half inch, and showed me in the mirror what it looked like. I was happy, and then they took me back over to the sink! To rinse out the pieces of hair! This amazed me. I think this practice should be adopted by my local salon. Every time I get my hair cut I end up with hair all over the place until I wash it next. Rinsing it out before the blow out makes so much sense.
So the rinse happens, and the kid is doing the scalp thing again! By this time I’m thinking I'm so relaxed, if I have a stroke and die I won’t notice.
So, rinsed, I go back over to the chair, and the hairdresser examines her work. And she starts trimming and fixing and fussing--totally trying to get it exactly right. Finally she’s satisfied and gets out the hair dryer. And her assistant comes over and gets out a hair dryer too! They both stand there blow drying my hair, paying attention to how it is falling, smoothing out details, giving my temples a little rub here and there. If you think one hair dryer is nice, try two someday. Unbelievable.
When the hair is dry, the hairdresser takes over one last time and starts styling the hair, using a little gel and some hairspray. As she’s working she pauses every so often to trim an end or use the razor on a little piece she’s not liking. The attention to detail was really impressive. In hindsight, I shouldn’t have been surprised. All the service type stuff here is performed with an air that I can’t quite put my finger on. It’s like people are very proud of their skills and what they have to offer, and you can tell. But then, simultaneously, they behave in a way that lets you know they are honored to serve you.
At first I was thinking that 5000 yen for a haircut was pricey--it’s about $48 US. But when you think about it, I got my hair washed three times, cut three times, and a head and neck massage. Plus, I no longer felt like my expiration was imminent. I feel like I got a really good deal.
And then--just when I thought it couldn’t get any better--the hairdresser GIVES ME FLOWERS! I’m telling you, I was blown away. Plus I really like the haircut!
After I paid, I retrieved my earrings from the little tray where they had been resting, and the hairdresser and the assistant kind of watched me put them back on. They nodded their approval with the total effect. On my way out the young man said, in English, “you look very pretty”, opened the door for me, and got my umbrella out of the stand and popped it open for me. They both saw me out the door, thanking me and bowing. I thanked them and bowed. Needless to say, I am going back as soon as I have the slightest bit of regrowth.
Also I am now officially never ever going to drink bottle coffee again. Tonight is our hall meeting and I’ll give the coffee away. Actually, that may be unethical. Maybe I should pour it down the drain. Man alive, how was I drinking four cups of coffee a day before?? Maybe a permanent switch to tea is in order, for real this time.
Pictures are up and to the left. Get your hair cut in Japan sometime. It rules.